Love is great… until it ends and he doesn’t like you anymore. Then, it’s all about eating ice cream and packing on the broken-hearted weight.
There’s nothing worse than a guy who loses interest in you. Did you really like him? Sure… maybe. I mean, even if you don’t like him, you can feel your ego being slowly squeezed. What makes it even worse, is that when you see him distancing himself from you, then you try harder. We’ve all been there. I’m actually an expert at doing this, especially in my early twenties.
When I would see a guy losing interest in me, I would try even harder, be more attentive, message them more, and hang on for dear life. That usually makes them run away from you even faster. I know what you’re thinking, and yes, this is my gift. But you don’t have to go through this. In fact, you can be the one to pull out before him.
How to know when he doesn’t like you anymore
Trust me, you don’t have to wait to be dumped. In fact, that’s one of the most humiliating things that you can do… wait around for a guy to end it with you. But sometimes it can be difficult to know if he doesn’t like you anymore. Here are some clear signs.
1 He doesn’t reply to your texts. Classic sign that he doesn’t like you anymore. Okay, sure, maybe he’s working or has a football game. But if he isn’t replying to your texts for a couple of days, that’s not because his battery isn’t working.
I’ve had a couple guys try to ghost me via this method. The best thing you can do is stop texting him because you’re going to look desperate.
2 Or, if he does, it’s one-worded replies. Or maybe he does reply to you because he feels somewhat guilty. He’s still an asshole, though, so don’t look at this with some hope. If he replies with “k,” “lol,” “yes,” or “no,” it’s best that you just put your phone down or open your Tinder account. Get someone new – someone fresh.
3 He’s M.I.A. You were supposed to go for a movie last Friday, but he never messaged you. He was supposed to come over for cookies, but he didn’t show up either – he said he slept through his alarm. His alarm didn’t go off, or did his phone run out of battery? No. He’s trying to ghost you.
4 He doesn’t ask you to hang out. He used to ask you to hang out all the time, but now, he hardly messages you. This isn’t because he has new friends, well, unless they’re women. If he isn’t asking to spend time with you, it’s because he doesn’t want to.
5 He doesn’t care about other men. You can try to do the whole “I’m going to mention another guy to make him jealous” trick, but if he isn’t reacting at all, well, he doesn’t care about the other guy.
In fact, he’s probably happy there’s another guy, that way, he doesn’t have to man up and tell you he’s not interested in you.
6 He doesn’t update you. When you have a relationship with someone, it’s normal to tell them about your day and what happened. However, if he stops telling you about his day and the updates going on in his life, you’re becoming less of an important figure in his life. I know it’s hard to accept, but that’s just the case.
7 He spends more time on the phone when around you. If someone really finds you interesting, they’re not going to be spending time on their phone while around you.
If anything, their phone is tucked away in their pocket, and they’re fully invested in your time together. But if he’s swiping on Tinder and messaging his grandma, well, there ya go.
8 He talks about other women. If he’s talking about other women in front of you, he’s trying to hint to you that he’s interested in other women. I mean, sure he could be doing this to make you jealous, but if he’s doing this along with other signs, then that’s not the case. He’s trying to hint to you.
9 He spends more and more time away from you. You used to hang out every Friday night watching movies at your house, but now he goes out with his other friends.
If he really wanted to spend time with you, he wouldn’t give up those moments with you. But he did, because he’s looking for someone else.
10 Physical contact fades away. If he used to have his arms all over you and now he doesn’t, well, that’s a good sign his arms have been around someone else. And that he doesn’t like you anymore. You touch people that you’re attracted to – it’s plain and simple. If he’s not touching you like he used to, he doesn’t like you anymore.
11 He treats you like a friend. This is the worst one. I mean, if they’re still hanging around you but simply stopped flirting with you, it’s painfully obvious that you’ve been friend zoned. I’ve been in this position. What’s worse is that they are not being honest with you and letting you know how they feel. Instead, they know you like them, and they’re ignoring it.
12 He gets angry at you without reason. Maybe you’re talking to him about some movie you watched or one of your friends, but this isn’t what he wants to hear. Why? Because he doesn’t care, and listening to you talk is making him frustrated. Have you ever done something you didn’t want to do? You know the feeling. Well, that’s what he’s feeling.
13 Your habits annoy him. Oh God, do I know this one. Those habits that he used to find cute, or only mildly annoying, are now the worst thing to enter into his life.
He hates how you snort when you laugh, and he can’t stand how you slurp your soup. Everything about you puts him on edge, and this is because he’s trying to create distance.
14 No more flirting. Ah yes, flirting is what creates sexual tension and shows the chemistry between you two. But if he cut out the flirty behavior, then that’s a good sign that he’s trying to build a wall between you two. But really, if he stopped flirting with you, then what’s the point of wasting your time on him?
15 He doesn’t comfort you. Usually, when you’re having a bad day and the guy who likes you sees it, they try to make you feel better. Maybe they’ll hug you, buy you lunch, or send you a funny YouTube clip, you know, little things like that. But, if he’s dodging you like a bullet or blatantly doesn’t care, well, then he doesn’t care.
16 He tells you. If he isn’t a complete jerk and cares about you, he’ll actually just flat out tell you that he’s not interested. This is pretty rare, as I’m finding that most men are babies. I wish I was joking. If he tells you how he feels then, sure, it’s going to sting. But then you’ll know right away.
If he’s exhibiting more than three of these signs, it’s time to start evaluating your relationship with this guy… because he doesn’t like you anymore. Don’t wait for him to end it, be the one to dump his ass.